Prelude verdict in some words: Too many a times, we got smoked. And when we regain full visual ability, things isn't what it's used to be. Love is blind, for a start.
Title: I'm not the onli 1
Was inspired to write this blog after watching an episode of a variety talk show. One of those variety shows tat i can find via the internet on 1 of my regular drama serial sites. They had 5 celebrities who shared their experience on how extreme they supported their boyfriends when they were dating. Of which, 1 of them had an experience with a particular boyfriend who was broke that he couldn't pay his rent. So he moved in with her when she was staying with her family. Other than letting him stay with her, she was paying his credit card bills, took money from her when he ran out of it, pay his game credits on the internet. Tat's after he's spent all of his month's pay. On a CNY day, her bf was gamblin with her sis and bro and he lost big time. Other than the fact tat she paid tat amount to her sis, her bf claimed tat her sis and bro ganged up to cheat his money. She ended up arguing with him for days over this matter, till her mum went to find out wat was going on. They had a confrontation in her parents room. Her bf juz pointed at her sis and bro and said they ganged up to cheat his money. Doing tat rite in front of her parents. Her dad immediately told him to get out of their house. She can still help him to pack his bag and drive him to where he wanted to go. They broke up after tat of coz. A few months later, her dad commented tat the internet bill was unusually expensive, but couldn't understand y. But they left it as it is. Till about a yr later, the butler of the house went to find out y. Apparently someone was buying game credits through their internet account. Her now ex bf remembered their internet's password and was still using tat to buy his game credits. She gave him a call immediately to ask him and he can juz shamelessly reply her tat he was. On top of tat, she found out tat he had secretly borrowed money from her mum on several occasions.Why is this entry existing? Becoz I was 1 of those ladies who have ever done tat out of love.
Out of all the stories ive heard, this was the most extreme. I believe there r other out there. This episode relates back to me so closely. I also believed once tat money was not the core importances of a relationship. Love is. And love being the priority of it, I could be blinded by all the other elements around it.
Could anyone be as dumb as me, knowing the fact tat he did not have the capability to pay me back the cost of a new mobile phone? And yet still decided to pay it for him on behalf? On top of tat, sign the new line under my name becoz u were able to get a corp discount on the plan? When it comes to gambling, there is a saying, out of 10 games, u'll lose 9. As the name states, this game's a gamble. U'll nv noe when ur luck runs out, but yet, he felt tat he was always lucky. He juz wanted to 'try his luck' at it. The concequences of it, were paid off by me. Though the amount wasn't big, but it sustanciates how much pride the guy have in him to have his debts paid off by his 'woman'. He could even sacrifice his lunch juz so tat he could buy game credits of this new game he's discovered on the internet... I wanted to juz hang myself. Owning a car is a luxury, paying the mortage is a agony. Though I may not have paid for it, but everything else tat comes with it... petrol, insurance, road taxes. Were all paid by me.
Now, the car's parked in my multi storey carpark. The phone and the sim card's lying somewhere on my table, with a live plan still going on. All these with a bunch of red reminder letters of the past I wished i could juz use a huge fire to burn up. It may seem like a comfort to noe tat, i'm not the onli dumb woman around and Im definitely wasn't the worse. But it did gave me a reminder.. to nv trust a man at their lowest ever. When it comes to finances, u juz have to be materialistic about it. I can deal with going dutch on meals, exchanging of treats and all. But when it comes to loan or anything to do with promises... all turns out empty. Love is juz over-rated. Love causing u to go blind in so many ways. And tat's where guys use tat as an illustion to act on ur weak spots. U'll give him to him coz u love him. U'll let him do anything he wants u to coz u love him. U'll listen to everything he says and want.. juz coz u LOVE him. Its an over rated word.
Love juz isn't love anymore... Its no longer old school where boy meets gal, gal and boy falls in love at first sight, boy and gal dates, boy kiss gal and they'll stay together forever, eventually they'll get married, boy takes care of gal, have kids, boy takes care of family, and live happily ever after. In the modern day now, tat's Bullshit. With modern influences, u'll have lust, greed, sloth and pride all mixed up in ur relationship. Why do u think there's so many divorce cases? Y r there so many pre-marital sex cases? Y r there so many extra-martial affairs? Y r there divorce cases with wife fighting for alimony? Becoz love no longer exists as love. Its juz a word overly used and abused by many, in return for wat they want, truly.
If I have to touch base on juz this alone, I think my entry will nv end. My point is, as a woman, Im not the first neither the last of this foolish sacrifice. In the name of love, willing to forgo everything juz for it. Its juz not worth it. Till the day i've found someone worth of the word, love. This word's going to be stored up somewhere in the attics for now.
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On reflection point it's how this stories and encounters, through sharing from real-life experiences, reminds us how fortunate we are already.
We should therefore be happy and satisfied with what we have, as the Chinese idom goes: 比上不足，比下有餘。Loosely translated from as: Though falling short of the best, BUT way ahead of the worst.
To the author: Thank you for letting me share the story. Not sure if you would want your name disclosed here; therefore your anonymity. All the best to you.
P.S. 知足中求上竟，你能做到吗？While soaking in self satisfaction, are you able to yet seek realistic improvement?
Good night peeps.. Cheers out!
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